My opinion on porn and open alcohol consumption is changing

My wife and I have many ideological differences and even some of our values are different but when it comes to changing our opinions based on the new knowledge and awareness that we gain due to constant interaction with each other as well as with others, we both easily change. Over the years she has been able to change my outlook on porn and open alcohol consumption.

I used to believe that porn is fine and it is a personal choice. There is no morality attached to it. Watching porn doesn't make me a pervert. In fact, I thought, it is good to see your wild imaginations manifesting right in front of your eyes instead of festering in the deep dark nooks of your sexually imaginative brain.

The problem with porn is, it doesn't just happen in isolation. There is a complete ecosystem that revolves around porn whether it comes to creating the core content or impacting the minds. You are never sure whether what you’re watching is happening with the consent of the actors or not. Even if they’re doing it with consent, you never know whether that consent is obtained legitimately or by force. It is not very difficult to find porn videos and images where you can easily make out the actors aren't exactly feeling great about what they’re doing.

Just yesterday I read a news item in which they described how a couple was kidnapped by a group of six persons. The couple was forced to perform sexual acts while those six persons made videos on their cellphones, and then the videos were uploaded on one of the porn websites. Just imagine, this crime wouldn't have taken place if there were no websites that enabled these people to upload their own porn videos.

This is just one aspect. Due to the easy availability of porn on the Internet, it is suddenly accessible to everybody. It is beyond one’s wildest dreams. Call girls and prostitutes are forced to perform sexual acts that their customers have seen in the porn videos and some of those acts are really dangerous. All commercial sex workers claim that before the porn videos, it used to be quite safe and straightforward (although many would debate that, but that’s another issue). Many of the heinous sex offenders get their ideas from the porn videos they have just seen.

So when you watch porn, it is not a simple act of your fantasies taking shape, there is a lot involved. Maybe you can control your sexual urges but another person watching the same video cannot. He or she would like to act them out. Of course you’re going to say that many violent acts find their inspiration from violent movies and literature and a totally agree, but there’s a difference.

The making of porn is open to exploitation because it is not a legitimate industry. People can be arrested while making porn and this forces them to make them using unlawful methods and once you have crossed the line, you basically keep on crossing it even if it involves forcing the actors and compelling them into doing things they don’t want to do. You can find domination porn, animal sex, people being strangulated while having sex, people eating shit having sex, people killing animals while having sex and so on. Mental deviance has no limits

With so much pain and mental trauma involved, is it really worth it? You want to maintain an ecosystem that exploits people and gives sick people ideas just so that you can watch penises entering vaginas? Doesn’t make sense.

Now alcohol.

I don’t have any problem with consuming alcohol — I have shots of my favorite white rum and vodka myself a couple of times every week — the problem comes when people get drunk and move out. They cause accidents and they commit crimes. I don’t believe in prohibition because that encourages not just smuggling, but a greater tendency to do something that is prohibited, so that idea is not good.

What should be made illegal is moving out. When you are on the road and if you are drunk, it should be considered a serious offence, in fact as serious an offence as something that can get you behind bars for a couple of years.

Fine, it may pose problems for many people (for instance you are travelling with somebody who is drunk and needs to be taken home or some other place) but this problem can be solved by intimating the concerned authorities that you are drunk (or someone you know) and you need to be on the road because it is unavoidable.

Public alcoholism and porn lead to crimes that are so unfair and heart-wrenching and by simply curbing these two, the crime rate can be brought down significantly. What about the livelihoods of people working in these industries? Well, considering how many innocent lives can be saved, I would say, they should weigh other career options.

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