Comments on: Does not having kids keep you happy

By: J

Tue, 19 Aug 2008 04:59:25 +0000

but then, most people (at least most people i know) don’t really see it as responsibility. and it can be anything, children, work. its just something that they love to do, enjoy doing, and hence they do it. again, its a very individual thing. don’t do it, if you don’t enjoy doing it. if you ‘have’ to do it, then what better way than to learn to first start enjoying it.

By: Mai

Mai — Fri, 15 Aug 2008 17:42:54 +0000

Dear Destination Infinity,

Why not? I cannot think of a single valid reason why fulfilling one’s responsibilities cannot be…fulfilling. One accomplishment here in this Maya-life is learning to meet our responsibilities in a joyful, enjoyable way.

BTW, my destination is also infinity; I, however, insist on enjoying the journey.

It’s all in the attitude.

Chardi kala!

Mai, TINK

By: Destination Infinity

Destination Infinity — Fri, 15 Aug 2008 15:00:45 +0000

Is doing work and going to office increasing happiness among the people? These things are responsibilities. And the responsibilities are not for making people happy!

Destination Infinity

By: Mai

Mai — Tue, 12 Aug 2008 18:15:23 +0000

I think this whole thing of having kids is largely a matter of individual disposition. Some people are equipped to be parents and some are not.

For me, being a mother was, in happiness and fulfillment, second only to the joy of being married to my husband. A lot of work and immeasurable responsibility, to be sure, but what could compare to looking into his eyes and knowing this little human had entered this world through my body? (Yes, he was a boy, and a girl would have been equally loved and welcomed.)

For a successful marriage, I think it is necessary for ‘my life’ to become ‘our life’ to a great extent. I believe this is a small part of the concept of ‘one spirit in two bodies.’ This ‘our-lifeness’ must increase exponentially when a child enters the equation. There is a sacrifice of individualness – although not necessarily of individuality – a kind of merging to form a new familial unit.

Lots of big words for a very simple and beautiful reality. If you are ready to be a parent, it is the greatest blessing on earth! At least it was for me.

By: J

Tue, 12 Aug 2008 14:24:14 +0000

i’ve felt an immense improvement in my emotional well-being since the birth of my child. i opened myself to this unique experience, and it opened me up, manifold. i don’t know about the ‘my life’ bit .. as in yes .. my friends would say that i don’t have a “life” now, but then, now, this IS my life. what it was earlier, my lifestyle then, was what it WAS. and now this child, and what we have now is my life. and i love it, and wouldn’t have it any other way. and yes, if you feel you are not really up to it, don’t have kids just cos you feel you should. i, for one, feel blessed.